Turo Virta: 1:07

Welcome back to the Fit Me Turo Fitness podcast. We often talk about resilience when life gets difficult, but I have been thinking about a different question: What if resilience is actually built long before the crisis arrives? My guest today is Vincent Vandenbrock, author of Everything Feels Impossible Until It's Done, Vincent survived a devastating accident and a traumatic brain injury. Spent weeks in a coma and then faced the enormous challenge of rebuilding basic abilities that most of us never think twice about, from moving and communicating to rebuilding his independence and his life. But what I what interested me most about Vincent's story isn't only what happened to him; it's what helped him to continue when progress was painfully slow. What the experience taught him about identity and control, and why he believes that the life we build before adversity matters when adversity eventually finds us. Today we are going going to talk about resilience, patience, identity, relationships, small wins, asking for help, and what all of us can learn from a situation we hope we never have to experience ourselves, Vincent, welcome to the podcast.

Unknown: 2:36

Thank you, thank you so much, Turo. By the way, really good intro, loved it. Thank you,

Turo Virta: 2:42

Vincent. For for someone hearing your story for the first time, can you take us back to the day everything changed?

Unknown: 2:53

We are October 1120, 24. A day like any other. I am on a catering event with the business. Leave the catering event a bit earlier because I had an important file to finish for the same business. I'm on my way to a hotel where I always didn't still do admin work to finish that file, and it is in front of the hotel that I get hit by a car driving way too fast, and the scene was just disgusting to see. So I was on an e-scooter, wasn't wearing any helmet. The car threw me away on the on the street immediately. Skull open, blood everywhere. I'm dying literally on the spot. No memories, by the way, of all that. So this is told from stories, and then I spend the next three weeks in ICU and coma.

Turo Virta: 3:56

So, what is when was it? 2024. Did I hear correctly?

Unknown: 4:00

2024. Yes.

Turo Virta: 4:01

So it's now when we are recording this. It's pretty much two years ago,

Unknown: 4:07

it's exactly literally two years ago. This time I was in coma.

Turo Virta: 4:12

Yeah, yeah. What is the first thing you remember after waking up?

Unknown: 4:18

Unfortunately, so coma in itself only took three weeks. Unfortunately, so I would tell people that it was five weeks because those first two weeks I was just in a bad place. It wasn't like this epiphany kind of moment where you that we see in the movies and you're like and awake and aware of everything. It was a slow wake up and and remember all the basic stuff. I got stripped away from my identity, like all the basic stuff, I'm not able to do anymore. I do not have any notion of time. You're in a literally 10 minutes would feel like 10 hours, or 10 hours would feel like 10 minutes. Cannot walk, cannot talk, cannot eat.

Turo Virta: 5:06

You're,

Unknown: 5:08

yeah, you you depend on everybody for even the smallest things. I hallucinated a lot, so I complain, and I'm somebody that never complained or complains today. And I was just complaining all the time. Everything was too much, and then slowly but surely you get better, and you you're able to do your first step, and then your second, and then your third, and then all of a sudden you can walk a hallway, and then you keep on stacking small wins, and until your old self again. But it was long.

Turo Virta: 5:46

Yeah. What what. what could you do before the accident that suddenly became impossible? What was like? How was the?

Unknown: 5:57

Oh, every everything. The walking thing was so the right part of my brain got hit, which. Controls the left part, so my left leg wasn't there anymore. They had to help me go to the walking alone was was already a big thing, and of course, if you're not able to do the basic stuff, but you're not able to do nothing from before the accident.

Turo Virta: 6:27

Wow, was there like one loss of ability that affected you emotionally more than the others? What was the hardest one?

Unknown: 6:37

You that got me thinking of three things. One is being is depending on everybody. I've always been someone super independent about everything, and all of a sudden you depend on everybody for even the the basic thing. So that was tough to to accept. Another thing that really hit me was not being able to play my role in our in my marriage. Like all of a sudden, you're not a husband anymore. You become a patient. My wife had, which was super. I'm I'm big on the traditional way of seeing marriage, and you're not able to do that. So that was difficult for me. Another was, I was scared of. Like my personality is, I'm high energy, high confidence, always been and always will be. And those two things are lost for a very, very, very long time. And I was afraid that I would never get them back. So yeah, some some things.

Turo Virta: 7:48

What does it feel like psychologically when things you did automatically yesterday suddenly require enormous effort?

Unknown: 8:01

Oh, it's wow! You're you're a human being, so you complain, you're frustrated, you you're pissed at, you're angry at the world, at everybody, and then your support system comes in because we all this thing called life. You you're not able to do it alone, and I've always been. I've always had people around me that were never afraid to tell me what I needed to hear and not what I wanted to hear. They would be like, "Stop complaining. Start sit up straight. Start walking. Push your limits. Push your limits. While the easy thing to do would have been to feel to be pity for me, to feel sad for me, they would just like they they would push me, they would push

Turo Virta: 8:54

me. Amazing. Were you ever taking that like asking yourself that why me, or was it like did you take that victim mentality? A

Unknown: 9:08

problem. did. I still remember, and this was my first night in rehab already. So we're November 20, and I still remember thinking exactly that. Late in bed, why does this happen to me? And I remember telling myself, "Don't go there. That's a dark place to be in. And you and I moved on. I moved on. It it doesn't it doesn't bring you nowhere.

Turo Virta: 9:40

Yeah, being

Unknown: 9:40

a victim. It's it's the easy is the easy path. It's but it's it's it won't bring you nowhere.

Turo Virta: 9:46

Yeah,

Unknown: 9:47

going back going back, by the way, to to the subtitle of the book, how the life you build becomes a life that saves you. I I never was a victim. I never had. Yeah, of course I was a victim, but I never had a victim mindset. Something circumstance. You will never be able to control your circumstances, but what you can control, though, is what you do with those circumstances.

Turo Virta: 10:14

So, how did then your rehabilitation actually look like in the beginning?

Unknown: 10:24

I can give you the not the entire story, but I'm I'm gonna tell you how it went. You need to know that recovery rehab was supposed to take two years. Well, when news got better, they told my family and they told my family rehab will probably take two years. They looked back and they were like laughing, saying,"Ah, you don't know, Vincent. Maybe a year. I walk into rehab. So October 11th accident. I walk into rehab November 20, and with all the information that I got about my case, the way I progressed, I told everybody on my birthday, which is January 25th. I'm out of this place, and then, what do we all do? What we what what do we like to do as human beings? Breaking people down, killing dreams. So everybody would be like, be more realistic. That ain't gonna happen. Focus on yourself. Slow down. Except for one person, my wife, she tells, she says to me, it might be better to not link it to a specific day, but to things you did before the accident, and then you're gonna need to relearn again, and then ego hops in, and you be like, but you're supposed to be on my side, and you're supposed to be supporting me, Lala. You complain, and then when when is what do they do? They okay ego hops in, but then they listen and they act upon. So that same evening, I made a whole list of everything I did before was able to do before the accident. So I did the social media for the business. So after they learn all the applications again, the books, Excel, my wrist got broken, so I need to learn push-ups again. My collarbone got so physical activities, and I always made a whole list. And every time that I was free between therapy sessions, when there were no visitors, I would work on that list. A couple of days later, I post my very first video on Instagram for the business. And I don't know if you know, with with CapCut, the application there's a logo thing in the end that you're supposed to do. Do we posted a shitty video and you even forgot the logo? Again, ego hops in. 10 seconds, winners. They listen, act upon. So a couple of days later, I post my second video, which was probably still shit, but at least I deleted the logo. And here it gets very interesting. It wasn't January 25, but the week of my birthday, I walked out of that place against all expectations.

Turo Virta: 13:06

Wow, wow, that's amazing! So, how in during that time, how did your definition of progress change?

Unknown: 13:23

It didn't. The definition of no. What it did do is, it it makes it super clear when we we say it all the time, one step at a time, right? That is progress is one step at a time.

Turo Virta: 13:39

Yeah,

Unknown: 13:41

which was which was literally the case for me in and from not being able to walk to making my first step, then my second to them being able to walk a whole hallway, and then it's do the two most important words in the title are feels and done. Feels which is always connected to the end result, which you will never be able to control, it's not factual. Feels it doesn't mean nothing and done. What you can control though is the doing part, is making that one step, doing that second, third, fourth. That is real progress, one step at a time. Do really doing?

Turo Virta: 14:31

Yeah. Did that then that recovery and that one step at a time, like you said, did that recovery teach you to respect small progress, like one step at a time, in a way you never had before?

Unknown: 14:48

I had to. I had to learn myself. I had to teach myself to be indeed more happy with the small progress. There is even a video that I posted on Instagram where I'm able to open a bottle for the very first time by myself, a bottle, and I'm literally that I'm like yes, I'm that for a bottle for a bottle, and then indeed the mind. By the way, the human mind works in that way. Like when when you have a win, it's Tough to really, really appreciate the win. So you need to remind yourself, like, hey, this was good. This was cool. That is an internal conversation. That is a conversation you're not having out loud. Like you're not talking like a lunatic out loud to yourself. But you're just having this internal conversation of, hey, remind yourself that yesterday you were not able to walk to do two steps. Now you can. You teach yourself gratefulness.

Turo Virta: 15:56

Yeah, is there is there like what when you mentioned gratefulness? What did you have to relearn that? You wants to completely for granted

Unknown: 16:13

again on everything, literally all the the basic things to start with, and everything that comes after, Literally everything

Turo Virta: 16:29

that we are like because I I believe that that those are many of us who never like or who had some smaller struggles but not never like not like your struggles and and we think things like that you know you are able to walk if you are able to, or or do things you love to do, and this is just that it's it's we often forget that those are actually amazing things, and even it sounds like you know stupid, and you know you are complaining about or or thinking that you know, I should I should lose last five kilos or whatever. That I'm not happy. You don't allow yourself happy, and you know to be happy. And now, when you think that you know you are still able to walk, you are able to do like several things. What what you know all people can't obviously do. So your book is called "Everything Feels Impossible Until It's Done. Where did that phrase came come from?

Unknown: 17:40

Well, from a lot of things. It it came Where the true inspiration, but first of all, the facts. In my case, nine out of 10 people with the same damages they die. They do not make it. For them to make a full recoveries was considered 1% So you won't bear. Me waking up was already considered impossible. They told my my family stop prepare when I was still in coma. Start preparing the funeral because your husband is probably not going to make it impossible. And then I've always compared. I've always been fascinated by the high performing athlete environments. I've always compared life to sport, by the way. And until 2019, it was considered scientifically and physically impossible for a human body to run a marathon under two hours. It could not be done. Comes along Elliot Kipchoge again. These are facts. You can you can look it up. Comes along. Elliot Kipchoge runs a marathon one hour 59 minutes 40 seconds. More done. Here it gets interesting. Beginning of this year still London marathon, two runners in the same marathon run a marathon under two hours.

Turo Virta: 19:13

Yeah, it's it's that belief is I think it's there is a similar story like with the running. I think it's it was a mile mile running and it was it was or me

Unknown: 19:22

a mile. Yep.

Turo Virta: 19:23

Yeah, and it was also believed that it's impossible for human to do, and once the first one did it, I can't remember now the name. But then within next calendar year, I think there were like 37 people who did it. Who was what was until that point was thought that it's impossible. So it's it's just still like when did you did you feel genuinely that it was possible to recover or what felt imp was there something what felt impossible?

Unknown: 20:04

What felt impossible? We're going back to the beginning of the conversation was the confidence part and the energy part. I thought I lost. I I lost that, and then again,

there's the saying: 20:11

growth happens outside of the comfort zone. Then you put yourself outside of your comfort zone, and all of a sudden, that comes back. That comes back, and for me, I put belief under conviction. Conviction is everything. You're so convinced that it will work out. There is literally no plan B. Going back to how the life you build becomes a life that saves you. With 2018, I opened my first restaurant, and people would ask me, "Hey, Vincent, what if it doesn't work? No, it will work. Yeah, but what if it doesn't? Yeah, it will work. Yeah, but what is Plan B? There is no Plan B. You're just so delusional about whatever you're chasing

Turo Virta: 20:59

that

Unknown: 21:01

another outcome doesn't exist. And again, you will never be able to control the outcome. Yeah. But what you can control though is your daily action, and because you are so convinced that it will work out, your daily actions match exactly that.

Turo Virta: 21:16

Yeah, yeah, and this is like I'm. I I think exactly. I it's just my example. It's of course it's not like yours, but was the same thing when I started as a personal trainer, fitness coach, that was kind of accident. But I didn't at the time. I was working in other job. It's now 11 years ago, and at the time I lost the other job. And I thought that what I would look, what I would need to do. And then I said, I love fitness. I'm from my background a professional athlete. That is what I genuinely believe that I'm. I know already something. I might be able to help someone, and then I still remember vividly how people were feeling that you know, you are some guy from Finland. There is so much competition. It's gonna be hard. You are not speaking languages. It's gonna be very tough. I said I didn't have any backup plan. I said it's it might take. It was probably not the fastest way. It was not like a one year and success. But you will find a way. When you believe, I said I I have to make it work. I have to make it, and you know you do everything you literally can, and it will it will work if you if you generally believe. And until until you are not quitting, I believe that you know you are on the way. You find you have to adjust things, make maybe things differently, but until you are not quitting. You are not done, like you tell in your book.

Unknown: 22:49

Yep, exactly.

Turo Virta: 22:51

So, what was it then in recovery? Because you know, you you were talking that about those like big goals. You know, obviously, your goal was probably the first goal was to be like that everything would come back how it was, or or that there is that big picture about whole recovery. But was it were you thinking about that whole big picture, or was it like thinking about one step at the time? How was your thought process, and how how did you deal with the with the goals?

Unknown: 23:32

It's always the bigger picture. That is, the bigger picture is as important as the small steps. You need to know where you're going.

Turo Virta: 23:44

Yeah,

Unknown: 23:45

you always need to know. You need to set yourself a direction. Again, if you do not know where you're driving, you will get lost. You will never arrive at your destination. So you so you put yourself a destination in front of you. Okay, you know what? Because I love using examples that are easier to understand. Let's. So I'm in Brussels. I'm planning a road trip to Rome, for example. Okay. Again, we're 2026 right now. You go and Google, tap Rome, buy car. It's it's gonna give you an itinerary. You're still gonna need to drive, and then and then all of a sudden there's a lot there's traffic jams, and then all of a sudden there's renovation works, and you need to turn it. Okay, then you make you you take another you take another route until you arrive in Rome. If that is the if that is the goal, and it will probably rain, and there will be bumps in the road, and there will be obstacles, and you might need to stop to for gas. Maybe yeah. Maybe there's maybe a couple of indeed, but you will get there. It always starts with the bigger picture. Where are you currently going? And again, then from Rome, maybe you go into Lisbon, and from Lisbon, maybe you're going to Berlin. Like you, you change your you change your goals, you change your destinations, and then you reverse engineer. But if you really want to go somewhere? You will figure it out, and here it gets interesting because in life, the goals we set for ourselves one are not clear enough, are not our own goals. We think they are, but social media came in, and judgment came in, and friends came in and family came in. They're not your goals. That is also the reason why you're not going all in on them, because you're not super. There is no incentive. But when you're chasing something that is truly what you want out of life. You will get there.

Turo Virta: 26:08

Yeah, you were you were telling a little bit about like how the hardest part was was that when you were not you were dependent on other people, and that was the one of the hardest part. What could you still control when almost everything felt outside of your control.

Unknown: 26:34

Mindset way of thinking, which is mindset isn't something. Mindset is everything. The way you think is everything, which is, by the way, what you can 100% control, always. It was there. It was there. That is also the reason why I'm why I am where I am today. Yeah.

Turo Virta: 27:04

So then, what about resilience? Resili resilience. before the crisis, because this is like this was one of the biggest things I wanted to talk with you. So, do you think the person you were before the accident influenced how you responded afterwards?

Unknown: 27:24

1000, 1,000% 1,000% resilience needs a. pretty vague word. Resilience is what it actually means is being able to navigate a difficult situation, a storm, being able to navigate, not letting yourself down, and resilience is is the way I see it is built every time you're going through something difficult. You decide actively to face it instead of avoiding it. You build you build that muscle resilience. You build it. You build it. You build. You get better at it. And by the way, for people that are considered more resilient, me for example, people would tell me like your resilience in the flesh. Life is life is not easier for them. What they do, though, they make it look easier because they just don't complain. They know things will happen along along the way. Life is indeed difficult, but they just don't complain. Yeah, they just make it work. They figure it out, solution minded instead of problem minded.

Turo Virta: 28:53

Were there then like habits or values or personality traits that suddenly became useful during rehabilitation?

Unknown: 29:03

Well, a lot Perspective, knowing that things can always get worse, and that there is always perspective. Super important. Gratefulness. Super important. Pushing your limits, super important. Being eager to learn, super important. Having a support system, super important. It's it's a lot like it's not a one shoe fits all kind of answer. It's everything just coming together, and you use all those tools to execute again the plan, going towards your wherever you're going. For me back then, I was going see how clear it became. So the goal, the direction was getting my old life back and making it even better. That was the direction, but that is that is not clear enough. What does that look like? Okay, going back to the list I made. Okay, so physically I need to do this, this, this, this. Mentally, this, this, this, this, and then. then, third, the most important, relentless execution. Every day you execute on the plan until you arrive at your destination. Nobody, I didn't know that the week of my birthday I was gonna walk out of the place, but I damn sure made sure that everything I could control, I was gonna do.

Turo Virta: 30:59

Did then how did that discipline, what you developed earlier in your life, how did that help you?

Unknown: 31:08

Discipline again. It's it's a word we love. Discipline is doing what is necessary, regardless if you're feeling like it or not. You just do. You do what needs to be done, Regardless, if you're tired, if you're feeling a bit off, you don't feel like it. You just do what needs to be done. Discipline. So important.

Turo Virta: 31:40

What about patience? As

Unknown: 31:45

a patience, for me, always be patient on the long term, but super impatient on the short term. What I mean by what I mean by that is the bigger picture again. Gonna take a lot of time. You better be patient. It's not gonna happen tomorrow, nor next week, nor next month, nor next year. Maybe patience. On the, but everything that can be done today, you do. You're impatient.

Turo Virta: 32:27

That's so important. That's so well said, and so true. So, looking back, were you unknowingly prepared preparing for adversity before it happened?

Unknown: 32:42

100% You better be ready when opportunity presents itself, because life is life, and there's not 1000s of opportunities that present itself in a lifetime. And I was more than ready for this opportunity situation. I could not have been more ready to go through coma, through rehab, and everything that came after. I was more than ready.

Turo Virta: 33:07

If resilience is something we built before, we desperately need it. What should people be building today?

Unknown: 33:20

Loving themselves.

Turo Virta: 33:23

So good.

Unknown: 33:24

I'm not. I'm gonna make it. Yeah, That first, but I'm gonna go back to the core. What they should, what anybody should be building today is an authentic life, your life, not what your parents told you, not what your family, not what social media told you, your past, your life as authentic as it can. What? By the way, no judgment. Whatever that looks like for you, you want to be a personal trainer, do you? You want to be a barista, do you? You want to work in tech, okay? You want to build your own company, okay, cool. You want to be an employee, okay, cool. There is no rules but your own, and we got so good at putting rules on on everything. Like, who who are we? Please, who is gonna decide about my life if not if not me? Because if you, by the way, if you do not do it, if you do not do that one day, and listen, listen good to me right now. One day you're gonna wake up with so much regret, you're not ready for it. One feeling you would absolutely wanna avoid in life is regret, and if you live not your own life, it's gonna happen in five years. In and and I say this to everybody all the time. We'll talk in 10 years. We'll talk in 15 years. We'll talk in 20 years. Pretending is pretty easy today, tomorrow. Keep on pretending for 10 years, 15 years.

Turo Virta: 35:17

Yeah. So people often say that major trauma changes you somehow. Do you feel it changed you or revealed something that was already there?

Unknown: 35:35

Oh, it revealed it. The accident itself didn't teach me nothing. It reminded me though of everything. It put me to the test. It was literally this conversation, like, "Oh, Vincent, so you think you're that like that? We'll see, we'll see. Show me. It revealed everything, everything. It added also credibility almost to everything I was already saying before the accident. My the my narrative, everything I talk about is this is. The same thing as before October 1120, 24. The Vincent you're talking to right now would have talked to you in the same way about the same things on October 1120, 24 already.

Turo Virta: 36:23

So, which parts of your identity survived survived the accident, and which parts disappeared.

Unknown: 36:33

Everything so everything survived.

Turo Virta: 36:36

Was there anything what disappeared?

Unknown: 36:40

Nothing,

Turo Virta: 36:40

nothing.

Unknown: 36:41

Honestly, nothing. I shifted priorities though. I spent way more time with the people that I love than before the accident. I doubled down on body and brain health. Workouts became non-negotiable. But besides all that, honestly, nothing. And I know it's less sellable. It's more cool to say like, "Oh my God! and it changed me so much, and I'm so different, and I see life different. I I know it's more sellable, but I'm I'm not about that. I'm not here to sell nothing, if not authenticity. This, by the way, everything you're seeing right now in front of you, this kind of energy, this confidence, you cannot pretend that that comes from alignment. When what you think, what you say, and what you do is in one line.

Turo Virta: 37:45

What about then about patience because so many people they are impatient and how difficult because I believe that even your progress was amazing it was a lot faster than experts said but were you impatient at some point, or were you all the time happy with the kind of speed of your progress?

Unknown: 38:13

Oh, I'm the most impatient person that exists. I'm I'm super I'm super impatient, which I don't consider a bad thing either.

Turo Virta: 38:23

Yeah,

Unknown: 38:24

which it's it's human when it doesn't interfere with your progress, okay. It's nobody's. By the way, nobody's perfect, and that's again, that's okay. I'm not here to to to tell you that there's only my truth. I'm not here to tell you how you should live your life. I'm just telling people will help me. Will help me. And honestly, I'm I'm I'm I'm super. I'm somebody that doesn't wait. That hates waiting in line. In the supermarket, there's a long. I'm hate. I'm hating it. I'm just I'm just not gonna complain. I'm not gonna talk it into existence.

Turo Virta: 39:10

Was it? How did you handle that? Those plateaus, or when the progress wasn't as fast as you would like it to be?

Unknown: 39:20

I don't accept no foreign policy. I push more. I push more. No doesn't exist in my dictionary. Just push more. Yeah. Maybe I'll fall again, but I say I'm gonna try again. It's never about how many times you fall. It's about how many times you get up.

Turo Virta: 39:40

So what is? Did you learn something about kind of forcing the doors and forcing that progress.

Unknown: 39:52

Yeah. Again, same. That direction is everything. Knowing where you're going, you need to see it so clear in front of you. Is there? Let me give. Let me give you. Let me give you a good example. Saying you want to be in your best shape next year doesn't mean nothing. Staying, setting a goal, working out like working out six days a week, okay. That's pretty easy to understand. So you just make the goal. So what do you want to look like? What weight do you want to have? You want to have a six pack. You wanna you wanna earn 5k a month. Doesn't matter. You just make it super, super, super clear and visual. And then again, with 2026, go on ChatGPT. Ask to plan the next six months, and then you follow the plan.

Turo Virta: 41:00

Is there for you a difference between refusing to give up and? Refusing to accept reality

Unknown: 41:11

between refusing to keep up and refusing

Turo Virta: 41:15

to accept reality.

Unknown: 41:18

What do you mean with refusing to keep up?

Turo Virta: 41:22

That you just because it would be often people say like for example in fitness, you know they think that the plan is not working, or you know you are not having time, or whatever excuses we make to ourselves. But you are just not refusing. You are refusing yourself to give up, or is it refusing to accept reality? Like what is the difference? Like, if reality is is that you know you have a let's say five small children or under 10 year old kids, and that that is a reality, but then and you know it's it's you are refused, like accepting. That's the reality. You know what?

Unknown: 42:14

Everything is your fault. Even if it's not, it's yours. Period. 100% ownership. Reality is reality. Yeah. Let's let's again let's use an talking about the fitness world. We all know scientifically that the last reps in the gym are the most important, where your muscles tear apart and they rebuild stronger after. Right. It's either progress or emotion. Progress, emotion means if you choose emotion every time, that means you're not doing those last reps. You're too tired. You don't feel like doing them anymore. But you choose emotion, which will never lead you towards progress, or you choose progress. You do those, and it hurts, and then you feel sore afterwards. And then you do the same thing again the day after, and the day after, and the day after. Do that. By the way, there's 365 days in a year. Do that times 365 times. Talking about you, 11 years, 365 days times 11 years. Whatever you're chasing, you'll have it. You'll get way close, way closer to it

Turo Virta: 43:39

at least. Yeah, yeah. What about then discipline versus forcing yourself? Because obviously you are you are amazing with your discipline. It's but is there something like because we often romanticize resilience as pushing through everything, whatever happens. But was there something for you what you learned that there are times when pushing harder is actually the wrong thing.

Unknown: 44:09

Now, of course, again, same, same, same sports recovery is as important as the workout. You need when when I talk about going, I talk about go going all in on everything you do. I'm talking on every level. You go all in in your relationships. You go all in in your job. You go all in on your health in your workout, but you also go all in on your recovery. Every everything in life matters. Everything.

Turo Virta: 44:46

Was there were there some moments because you said that that was the you are kind of do myself person and but were there moments where accepting help was actually more courageous than doing things yourself?

Unknown: 45:04

Of course, all the time it is again, it's not a bad thing to ask ask for help. You cannot do life alone as human being. We're we're meant to be surrounded. Asking help is is a strength. By the way, it's not a weakness.

Turo Virta: 45:23

What what did you learn from asking help,

Unknown: 45:31

that that it will always get me further than not asking for help. It will always go further.

Turo Virta: 45:41

Yeah, what you would say then to someone who is currently trying to handle everything alone.

Unknown: 45:52

Don't just don't.

Turo Virta: 45:58

Yeah, because it's it's. I think many of us are like guilty, especially me. Like you know, it's it's. When you are, you have that kind of mindset that you know. You, I think maybe it's coming from our parents. I think as so many things, when we have been smaller, you know, it's just small things what impacts everything. Who you are, who you become, and if asking help was one of those things that you know it it could be related with the finance situation that you know we can't afford have a coach or asking help I have to do it by myself and but when when you understand that what kind of you get so much more back when you actually ask help even if it's it's for many people it's cost money is the issue, but then I always like to ask that how much is it costing if you are not asking help you know you might not find a solution you might not get where you want and that is there is a price for everything. There is a price for that pain to not get where you are.

Unknown: 47:13

There is.

Turo Virta: 47:14

So, for you, did your relationship with time change? So you are pretty young, or how old are you now, if I may ask?

Unknown: 47:31

3034, Yeah, I'm young. I'm super young. The only, the only thing I would say that change with time is I set myself a goal to live until 110 years old in super good health.

Turo Virta: 47:56

Wow!

Unknown: 47:57

Yeah, I literally set myself a goal. I'm talking you're 100 and you're you're still able to travel the world. You're still able to work if you want to work. I'm talking about that kind of 100, not hundreds that you're like in a home, hating life. No, I'm talking in good health. That's the goal right now.

Turo Virta: 48:18

What is what that means? Like, because you are very specific in your goals. What does it mean for you? Like, okay, you that you are able to do things what you love, but

Unknown: 48:31

what

Turo Virta: 48:31

it requires now at age of 34 to be able to do those things. What do you think that you need to do? What is your plan currently? I'm

Unknown: 48:40

I'm already doing them all all of it. That's taking care of. I built the whole framework from until it's done club around it. It's taking care of your finances. It's taking care of your nutrition. It's taking care of your movement. It's taking care of your sleep. Having a direction all the time, planning all the time, and executing on all of them. Chase seven is the framework called? I'm already I'm already doing everything that is needed to get there. What I can control at least.

Turo Virta: 49:14

Yeah, amazing. What is in your opinion, like or do you think that people spend too much time saying I will do that later?

Unknown: 49:28

I. I I know. I I don't think I know that people do that all the time. All the time, I see it all around me.

Turo Virta: 49:37

Yeah. What is what do then healthy people take for granted? What is the biggest thing?

Unknown: 49:51

Life, just life. Yeah, just just think about it. the The greatest gift that you've got in life is your life. Honestly, how amazing is that? Especially in 2026. Look look around you like you got that, and not and not making the most out of it is

Turo Virta: 50:18

a shame. Yeah, yeah. So, imagining time is running. I have a couple more questions, but imagining someone listening feels completely stuck right now. Their problem is nowhere near what you experience, but to them it feels enormous. They can't see the entire path forward. What should they do today?

Unknown: 50:46

First of all, make it clear why. What does feeling stuck look like for you? What write it down? Pretty simple. 1010 things. Okay, I really do not like my job. I do not like my place. I'm not really happy about my health. I need to lose weight. I want more muscle. Doesn't matter. Not helpful. You write it down. You take all that information. You go on ChatGPT or any platform, Gemini, which that you love to use. You give in and you ask a plan on a personal and professional level for the six months, and then as of tomorrow, you work exactly on that plan. And I can guarantee you, you won't we won't feel stuck anymore in six months already, in a month already. Is

Turo Virta: 51:43

there? Would you recommend using AI in this sense, or or is there is there some other tools what you who they should ask for help if they should ask help or or what how small that next step could

Unknown: 52:00

be? But AI is AI is only a tool for for the planning part. For example, I my movement is my my workouts are group classes because I know if I go to the gym by myself, I won't train the way I train by now. So then you you pick a cool gym, then you pick some cool people to surround yourself with. AI is only a tool, and that and then it and there it stops. It's not going to help you sleep. It's not going to help you get in better shape. That is going to be on you. Yeah,

Turo Virta: 52:36

that's so good. So, last couple of questions. If you could speak to Vincent before the accident for one minute, what would you tell him the

Unknown: 52:51

future is gonna be even more difficult than right now? But don't worry, you got this. You got this.

Turo Virta: 53:03

That's so good. If listeners remember only one lesson from your story. What do you want it to be?

Unknown: 53:14

Ask yourself the question "Why nam me" instead of"Why me? Just add one word to the to the sentence. Why not? Where can

Turo Virta: 53:28

where that's so good? Where can people find your book and learn more about you? The

Unknown: 53:35

book is which is crazy. Literally available everywhere you buy books. It's globally available. It's vis-a-cent in the kitchen on social platforms, and I love just talking to people about whatever, whenever. Vincent, Vincent, and I'm broken my entire name on LinkedIn, and it's duidclub.com, the website for everything coaching and all that.

Turo Virta: 54:06

Awesome! I will put all links to show notes, Vincent. That was a pleasure to talk with you, and I I'm amazed from your energy how passionate you are helping other people to find same. And I'm I'm sure if you get anything from out from this conversation, take it. Listen what this what Vincent has to say. As as you heard, he is he has done amazing things, and it doesn't mean that you have to be the same or as resilient or or whatever like he is. If you get even 10% of his energy or or willingness and discipline everything out. You are going to do amazing. Thank you, Vincent, so much, and thank you so much for listening.